How to Approach Wedding Planning the Second Time Around
“Life is what happens when we’re busy making other plans,” John Lennon famously said. Occasionally those first marriages don’t last for one reason or another. People and life change. It can take some courage to be willing to try again after the challenges and sometimes heartbreak of divorce, but it’s important to summon that courage!
Having photographed many couples marrying again, we share this wisdom: create the wedding of your dreams. The dream, however, may have changed since you’re now older and wiser. Some introspection is needed to see the new dream clearly. Many people who have had a first wedding are more open to what they want the next time around, rather than what they think they should create to impress family and friends. We often see a deeper expression of romance in second weddings; couples understand more clearly what they are getting into, and know the absolute importance of a deep and lasting love.
The same elements that make up a first wedding apply of course, to subsequent weddings: the right venue, meaningful ceremony, music, flowers, ambiance, celebration, and comfort for guests. For a second wedding, it’s good to incorporate what’s special or romantic in your relationship, or what’s unique. If you both love horses, get married in a field! If you love the water, get married at the beach. The second time around has to be about and for you and your beloved. Don’t compare it to your first wedding or anyone else’s wedding. Make it uniquely yours as a couple courageously choosing to love again.